On Misandry Being Real and Not Being Real - What is misandry and why identify with it?
On Being Both Misandrist and Feminist - What it means to me (misandry mermaid herself)
On Micro-Aggressions and a Mistrust of Men - How misogynistic jokes, epithets, gendered language and debating…
Every time I make an anti-porn post, I get accused of “shaming people’s sexuality” and/or “shaming sex.” As I have said numerous times, pornography is not sex. We all live in a patriarchy, and the porn industry at large is dominated by men and caters to men; this is true whether or not you want it…
I’d like to break a real taboo at this point, and raise a few questions that the pro-sex people consistently evade. Where do these sadistic and masochistic fantasies come from? To borrow from Simone de Beauvoir, are they born or are they made? Are they really agents of our liberation? If we are aroused by them, does it automatically follow that we are empowered by them?
To begin to answer these questions, we have to look beyond the fantasies themselves to the culture in which they develop. It is not just coincidence that they imitate the violence men do to women and girls. Think about the implications for our sexuality of the following statistics: More than a third of us were sexually abused as children (Russell, 1984). For many of us, our first sexual experience was a sexual assault. Forty-four percent of us will be raped (Russell, 1984). The environment in which we learn about and experience our bodies and sexuality is a world not of sexual freedom but of sexual force. Is it any surprise that it is often force that we eroticize? Sadistic and masochistic fantasies may be part of our sexuality, but they are no more our freedom than the culture of misogyny and sexual violence that engendered them.
Dorchen Leidholdt, “When Women Defend Pornography”
Pornography isn’t the elephant in the room, it’s the unicorn.
Throughout most of my experience in the feminist movement, pornography as a medium, has and still is, treated as infallible.
Criticizing the misogyny of pornographers and how they’ve integrated their hatred of women into this “art…
i don’t care if men feel comfortable enough to cry or to bake fucking cupcakes because feminism, i care that they stop hurting women.
that’s it. that’s my feminism. that’s all I am asking of men.
tell them ‘but i dont get it can you explain?’ and watch them fall apart
rapping about the soul’s never been better
I keep forgetting that people still actually believe that there are male and female brains, and that patterns in brain activity can somehow translate into the limits and capabilities of each sex to perform in certain fields and areas of study. I literally can’t believe that this is still a thing.
[TW Domestic Violence]
I once had a guy tell me that my opinion shouldn’t be taken into account, because I said i am a feminist (he equated it to sexism) when I called him out for saying that women are equally to blame for domestic violence, because they are putting up with it. He said that i…
consent is sexy in the same way that not shitting on people’s doorsteps is sweet and neighborly